What made me buy a jigsaw?
1. They were there. I rarely shop for pleasure but I am a sucker for books, stationary and arty crafty places. As you can imagine then, ‘The Works’ does it for me. I can’t remember what I went in for, but I came out with more. Including the jigsaw.
2. The picture on the jigsaw was the Taj Mahal. Just looking at it brought back the heat, the smells, the sounds of India. The thought of absorbing myself in that for a while was quite appealing.
3. I love the feelings associated with jigsaws - childhood with Grannies (though I really can’t think that any of my grandparents ever did jigsaws!), holidays and - best of all - me and Rob sitting quietly together in a shared activity. Rob soon disabused me of that final notion but not of the feeling.
4. Doing a jigsaw is a meditative activity. It stops the noise of the brain whirring. Therefore it is healthy.
We went to India in 1999, I think. It was one of the promises Rob made to me. You know when you meet a man in a nightclub and he makes you lots of promises? That was Rob. ‘I’ll take you on a proper date’; ‘I’ll take you to Dublin’; ‘I’ll take you to India’. Having heard it all before, I enjoyed the evening for what it was and didn’t go to all the effort of raising my hopes.
Within a week we’d been to the pictures - he booked the tickets, dressed up nicely and gave me a gentlemanly kiss on the cheek, arranging to see me again before taking his leave at the end of the date. He also had the temerity to think he could share my pic’n’mix, but that’s a different story. We saw ‘Men in Black’ and he bought me the soundtrack afterwards - although what he actually gave me was the empty CD case, because he’d been listening to the album and had left it in the player!
Within three months we’d been to Dublin. He booked us into a lovely hotel in Temple Bar and we cruised the city in the day and drank cocktails and danced through the streets at night.
Then we went to India. Rob had been before, on a properly organised holiday, staying in the Clarks Shiraz in Agra. Rob is always confident and said ‘We’ll just book the tickets and decide what to do when we get there’. So that is what we did. My experience of travel was limited. I’d been to Spain to stay with a friend, travelling with my equally unsophisticated sister. I refused to go through the check-in until nearly the time of our flight because I’d envisaged a claustrophobic waiting room where we’d all be packed together to wait. When we finally went through and realised it was spacious shopping heaven through there, it was too late and I was not popular. I’d also had a weekend in Paris with my very young husband where we were nearly defeated by a ferocious camembert. It wouldn’t let us back in the hotel room after a day by itself in the sun. We’d sent the children to school then left the country before my Dad had arrived to babysit. I had so many ‘just-in-case’ arrangements in place that my poor Dad felt like he was being stalked. With this breadth of experience, I was quite happy to just book tickets to India and go. How difficult could it be?
As the time for departure got closer, Rob began to let drop slight hints of his underlying - ‘worries’ would be too strong a word.
“I’m not sure how you’ll cope with the smells’
‘I’m not sure what you’ll eat, because they don’t have bread in India’
and - best of all -
‘There aren’t any toilets’.
Rob still says that is not what he said at all, but all I can say is that is what I heard. When I was seventeen (oh, and such a young, naive seventeen) and had just - days ago - left school, I set off for Switzerland to work for the summer. My future stepmother had helped me find the job and my Dad had booked my train tickets. I vividly remember getting to Swindon station - on the way to somewhere beyond Interlaken - and saying ‘I don’t want to go’. My Dad was very reassuring, he put me on the train and held the door firmly shut until it pulled away. Getting on the plane to India was similar.
To be continued.